I spent a good portion of this past weekend spending time with a girl. During this time, I faced a fitness test that I wasn’t quite prepared for, mostly because I had never experienced anything like it before. By way of background, the test came while were spending the morning and early afternoon just hanging around downtown. I was interested in checking out some record shops I stumbled upon the day before (and, for what it’s worth, ended up buying several records). We also went to an art museum. While we were in one of the record shops, she mentioned that she was feeling a little hungry. I ignored this because I was busy flipping through Wilco LPs, and then she mentioned a restaurant that was famous among the locals.
We then went to the art museum because I didn’t want to risk spending all my money on records. As we came out of the museum, she asked me if I was hungry.
Me (in a fit of foolish honesty): Not really.
Her: Do you want to go home and eat?
Me: I don’t care.
Her: blah blah blah A bunch of other options that didn’t interest me blah bl-
Me (having finally realized what was really going on): Let’s go to restaurant X and stop overanalyzing lunch options.
Roissy Heartiste described fitness tests led me to believe that all women are shrieking harpies that need to be put in their place. As such, I’m constantly on the lookout for stupid/unreasonable requests that test just how much of a chump I am. The test I faced this past weekend, though, was somewhat different in nature. It was undeniably a fitness test because she wanted me to take the lead. It wasn’t like a “normal” fitness test, however, in that it was not presented in an unreasonable manner. She was hungry and wanted me decide what to do about it. Since she wasn’t a bitch about it, I was almost blindsided by it. Still, I passed it and, just to be safe, spent the rest of the afternoon negging her relentlessly.
The moral of this story is that you, as a man, need to constantly be looking for ways to take the lead when you’re with a girl. And, when a girl wants you to take the lead, you had better do so. Especially when she asks nicely.
Coda: This incident reminded me of a wonderful post by Athol Kay that I can’t seem to find. It was written in Springish of last year, and was about something like but not necessarily how he would end up in a submission deadlock with his wife when she asked where he wanted to go out to eat. He literally didn’t care where they went, so he would defer the choice back to her, and she would defer back to him, and so on ad infinitum. Anyway, he managed to end this by simply making a decision, which then ended up making both of them happier. Basically, the point was that the man should simply take the lead on these things and not get caught up in making her happy about restaurant choice because what makes her most happy is simply following her man's lead. I’m pretty sure that having read that post way back when is what helped me to recognize this test and pass it successfully. It’s like the fifth paragraph of this post, but longer with more detail. If anyone knows the specific post I’m referring to, share it in the comments.