14 August 2012

Yell At Your Woman

It will make her happy:
The detailed study found that wives or girlfriends were pleased when their partner showed emotion because they believed it demonstrated a healthy relationship.

The survey, carried out by Harvard Medical School, also found that when men realised their wife was angry, the women reported being happier, although the men were not.

It revealed women most likely enjoyed spotting when their partner was dissatisfied because it showed his strong “engagement” or “investment” in their time together.
Women love drama.  Who knew?

At any rate, the big thing to take away from this is to not worry about hiding your emotions, especially your anger, from your woman.  Now women’s line of reasoning about emotional engagement may sound retarded to men, but the simple fact of the matter is that is how they are wired.  Adjust your behavior accordingly.

Furthermore, their logic isn’t necessarily wrong.  I’ve noticed that men who hide their anger and frustrations from their wives and/or girlfriends tend to be more passive, more whiny, and more likely to check out of a relationship.  Avoidance behaviors are not generally healthy, though relationships can limp along because of them.  Being engaged, even to the point of negativity, is better because you will at least address issues, even if doing so is generally unpleasant. Thus, it is better to be honest about how you feel, even if that means blowing up, than to suppress your negative emotions.  So, just tell you’re your woman how you feel, even if you’re upset.  She’ll thank you for it.


  1. In my long experience with one woman, losing my temper and shouting at her, briefly, almost always clears the air. And unless she is already very angry herself, it seems to actually make her happy. I have never had her complain afterwards. In a weird way, it seems to comfort her.

    When she was my fiancee, she once told me that my shouting at her on one occasion turned her on.

    The important thing is not to fake it, only do it sparingly, and don't rant or rave: just a good, quick, sharp shock. Even "shut up, woman!" can get good results.

    This is another area where the conventional wisdom is wrong.

  2. I am always amazed by how much public money university sociology departments flush away on "studies".

  3. Of course, be careful, you could always run into one of those women who thinks a man yelling is sexual abuse/rape, and get sent to jail.

    Of course, you shouldn't be in a relationship with such a wymyn in the first place, and I hope if you are, you haven't given her your legal name.

  4. @David Collard- thanks for the caveats. I always forget to provide those because I have a tendency to assume that people understand the natural limits of the advice given. Of course, constantly yelling at your woman isn't healthy, but neither is ignoring the problem. Thus, it is wise to occasionally let your emotions out, if for no other reason than to let your woman know that you're still committed to the relationship.

    @Prof. Hale- I'm surprised this needed studied. I always thought the efficacy of emotional displays was self-evident.

    @Anonymous- very true.