30 January 2013

Hugo Schwyzer Is Wrong



The virgin/slut dichotomy has long meant that a young woman is given two choices: have sex with no one, or give it up to everyone. One key way to fight slut-shaming is to reiterate that girls have the right to want to turn on whom they want to turn on – and still be treated with respect and care by those whom they don't. That's only an unreasonable expectation in a culture that expects very little from men. [Emphasis added.]

Now, Hugo somehow managed to stumble onto the truth a couple of weeks ago when he asserted that no one is entitled to sex.  By the same token, no one is entitled to respect.  Even (or especially) women.

Women certainly have the right, derived from self-ownership, to dress however they please.  They can even go naked, if they so desire, though I hope fatties are compassionate enough to avoid doing so.  However, with that right comes the responsibility to deal with the consequences.  If a woman wants to dress like a stupid slut, she certainly can.  However, she doesn’t have the right to command respect from men whose attention they aren’t demanding.  She doesn’t even have the right to demand that undesirable men ignore her.

Being a young slutty female doesn’t give you the right to do whatever you want, free of negative consequences.  Being a human being doesn’t give you right to whatever you want, free of negative consequences.  Ultimately, every adult of sound mind has the right to dress themselves as they please, and attempt to get the attention of other people.  But with this right comes the responsibility to deal with the consequences.  And if slutty girls don’t want the attention of certain people, then perhaps they shouldn’t dress and behave in a way that attracts that sort of attention.