And no one puts new wine into old wineskins; or else the new wine bursts the wineskins, the wine is spilled, and the wineskins are ruined. But new wine must be put into new wineskins. –Mark 2:22
The awkward Christian man’s sources of information for attracting a wife without game are few unknowns who have plucked the pearls from the vast library of information the degenerates put out and have tried to apply it, but haven’t even found a wife for themselves. [Emphasis added.]
I do believe the phrase “awkward Christian man” is an oxymoron. A more accurate way of capturing reality would be “awkward churchian male.” Why? Because, “God has not given us a spirit of fear.”
Remember Christ’s exhortation to, “not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul[, b]ut rather fear Him who is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.” If Christ tells those who are his followers to not be afraid of death, then just why the fuck should any of them be afraid to talk to women? Why should they be afraid to be honest with women (or anyone, for that matter)? If you see a girl at church, think she’s pretty, and want to go out with her, why are you too much of a coward to simply tell her that you think she’s pretty and you want to take her out? You’re not supposed to fear death, so why would you fear a girl? Even if she is a succubus, you still shouldn’t fear her.
The early apostles were abused, persecuted, killed, left for dead, tortured, mistreated, slandered, falsely accused, mocked, jailed, and tormented. Do you think that any of them would piss their robes at the prospect of talking to a grown woman?
The problem that a lot of churchian males have is that they aren’t Christian Men. They are still ruled by fear because they haven’t yet successfully given themselves over to Christ. They are trying to put the new wine of fearless Christianity into the old wineskin of fearful living, and unsurprisingly, that formula just doesn’t work. Something will inevitably have to give. But once you submit to Christ and decide that you will no longer be ruled by a spirit of fear, talking to girls seems trivially easy.
Now, this is not to say that one doesn’t need to understand tact. Not all people or situations are the same, and even Christ treated all people as distinct individuals. How he treated the Samaritan woman was quite different from how he generally treated the Pharisees. How Paul treated John Mark was different from how he treated Timothy, since the two men were different. Being fearless doesn’t mean being socially autistic.
That said, it seems the biggest problem that a lot of Church-going males have is that they are still quite ruled by fear. They can’t look people in the eyes and speak directly to them. They may eventually need to learn some social tact, but for now the bigger problem is fear.
They need to put new wine in a new wineskin. If they are going to be a Christian, they can’t continue to be cowards. Once they get rid of their fear, then they can worry about social tact.